Columns

I’m Done With Cautionary Tales About Women and Power

Lilly Dancyger on casting spells and re-watching The Craft during an election season.

Jun 27, 2019
Summer in Tokyo: Rain Women, Cicadas, and Visits from the Dead

One reason I fell in love with Japan is the way each season is embraced and celebrated. Living here has changed my view of them—and of myself.

Jun 20, 2019
In His 70s, a Congolese Physician and Refugee Dreams of Medical School Once More

From the Congo to a refugee camp in Kenya to resettlement in Austin, TX—this is the story of a doctor who is starting over.

Jun 19, 2019
Finding a Way Forward After Failure and Heartbreak, in Life and on the Farm

I was single for the first time in eighteen years. I felt unmoored. For the first time in eighteen years, everything was new, including me.

Jun 18, 2019
Women Are from Mars Attacks!

The world of this movie is a world in which transness is not the exception but the rule.

Jun 11, 2019
Burning Your Mouth to Spite Your Heart

I need something that is going to tingle, tell me the food is alive. Because I want to be alive, too.

Jun 03, 2019
What It Takes to Advocate for Twice-Exceptional Kids in School

I think about the many invisible struggles, the empty places I have had to fill for my kids. The bridges I’ve had to build.

May 29, 2019
How My Korean Skincare Routine Protects Me in Wintery, White Wyoming

I take off the effects of the day, the echoes of wind, sleet, and snow. I pamper my skin, urge it to replenish and heal. I am asking myself to brave another day.

What Happens to Our Numbers When We Die?

When I search for my father, I feel his numbers. Here’s a house number on my friend’s street that mimics the first few digits of my father’s phone. Here, at the 7/11, my receipt totals the amount of the last four digits of his SSN.

May 23, 2019
What I Did for the Chance to Have a Baby Someday

I flew to Taiwan the year I turned thirty-six, a trip I’d booked solely for the purpose of freezing my eggs.

May 22, 2019
At My Urban Farm, I’m Growing My Family and Growing Our Sanctuary

By farming, I connect back to my own culture. To, pun intended, my roots. To what it means to be a child of immigrants and help things grow.

May 21, 2019
When My Daughter and I Moved in with My Parents, Making Ice Cream Brought Us Together

Do other people ascribe “luck” to objects? I wondered. Wouldn’t it be far better to finally use this kitchen appliance and truly love it?

May 14, 2019
On Star Trek: Discovery’s Philippa Georgiou and How We Turn Our Mothers into Villains

I blamed my mother for so many things, but I blamed her especially for being a mere mortal when what I really needed was a supreme, supernaturally benevolent being.

May 13, 2019
Watching ‘Notting Hill’ and Wanting to Be Julia

I’m just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to overlook certain aspects of her appearance.

May 07, 2019
Watchword: How Octavia Butler Teaches Us Persistence

Of all the things that have come and gone in my life, I wanted this one thing, just one: to be a writer.

May 06, 2019
What Catwoman Taught Me About Sexuality and Power

Wearing the catsuit and embodying Pfeiffer’s slinkiness as best I could in my awkward, skinny body, I understood for the first time that I could be a sexual being, not just a sexual object.

Apr 30, 2019
When Disability Is a Toxic Legacy

Disability is not wrong or tragic or bad, but sometimes it is a symptom of a grave injustice.

Apr 23, 2019
Do Memes Change How We Remember History?

“Some memes may actually dissolve the original significance of iconic photographs and potentially degrade, rather than enhance, public culture.”

Apr 22, 2019
How I (Finally) Decided to Freeze My Eggs

Sometimes I joke that I’m already primed for motherhood because I’m already well-versed in guilt, blaming myself for things over which I have little control.

Apr 18, 2019